When Jamie Laing and Spencer Matthews sat down for a candid conversation on Jamie Lang’s podcast Great Company in September 2025, they didn’t just talk — they healed. For years, the once inseparable stars of Made in Chelsea had been public strangers, their rift fueled by silence, misinterpretation, and tabloid headlines. Now, in a raw, hour-long discussion recorded at an undisclosed London studio, they finally laid it all bare — and found their way back to each other.
How a Stag Do Broke a Friendship
It started with a simple no. In summer 2023, Spencer Matthews, who had been completely sober since January 2018 after battling substance abuse, declined an invitation to Jamie Laing’s stag do. Matthews assumed his sobriety was understood — that his absence wouldn’t be taken personally. But Laing, who later admitted he’d been feeling insecure about his own social standing, interpreted it as rejection. "I had had my stag do and you didn’t want to come to the stag do, which was fine, which I get," Laing said on the podcast. "But for me, that was like, ‘Well why wouldn’t you want to come to the stag do?’" The fallout was swift. Laing didn’t invite Matthews to his October 7, 2023 wedding to Sophie Habboo at Babington House in Somerset. Matthews, who had considered Laing one of his closest friends since meeting on Made in Chelsea in 2011, was devastated. "I was pretty hurt by that," Matthews admitted. "I tried to brush that under the table. I’m sure it wasn’t malicious from you — at least I’d like to think it wasn’t."The Ultramarathon That Deepened the Divide
The fracture widened in March 2025, when Laing ran 150 miles across England in five days for Comic Relief, raising exactly £2,053,835. His finish line at Trafalgar Square in London on March 15, 2025, was met with cheers from fellow Made in Chelsea alumni like Oliver Proudlock. But Spencer Matthews? Not a single post. Not a single appearance. The silence wasn’t indifference — it was protocol. "I wasn’t invited," Matthews said plainly on his own podcast, Untapped. Laing confirmed it: "I didn’t invite you because we weren’t friendly at the time." Matthews, who had planned to post only after the full run was complete, never got the chance. "I didn’t want to post halfway," he explained. "I was waiting for the end. But there was no end for me — because I wasn’t part of it."
Who Was Really to Blame?
The podcast wasn’t about finger-pointing. It was about accountability. Laing called his biggest mistake "not talking to you directly." He admitted his sensitivity to rejection had spiraled into avoidance. Matthews, in turn, owned his silence. "I know I’m not a great friend," he said, voice cracking. "I should’ve gone to the stag do for a couple nights. I could’ve had a soda water and been there." They both acknowledged how media narratives twisted their silence into a scandal. Articles in The Sun, the Daily Mail, and the Metro throughout 2023–2025 painted them as bitter rivals — when in truth, they’d just stopped talking. "All these articles started coming out saying we weren’t friends," Laing said. "And I think that was very upsetting for both of us."Water Under the Bridge — But Not Forgotten
On September 24, 2025, as the episode dropped, they didn’t just say they were sorry. They said they were sorry together. The reconciliation wasn’t dramatic. No hugs on stage. No fireworks. Just two men, both 35 and 36 respectively, finally saying what they should’ve said years ago. "We’re not going to pretend it never happened," Matthews said. "But we’re not going to let it define us anymore." Laing added: "I miss having you around. I miss the banter. I miss knowing you’re in my corner." Their friendship began in 2011, when they were cast on Made in Chelsea, a show that documented the lives of young Londoners in West London’s Chelsea neighborhood. They were inseparable then — sharing drinks, parties, and late-night confessions. Now, they’re rebuilding it, one honest conversation at a time.
What Comes Next?
Both men plan to stay in closer contact. Matthews, who continues to run his family’s construction legacy while appearing on reality TV, says he’s "committed to showing up." Laing, co-founder of London-based confectionery company Candy Kittens Limited, says he’s learning to voice his feelings before they fester. They’re not posting photos together yet. Not ready for the cameras. But they’ve started texting. Regularly. And that, for now, is enough.Frequently Asked Questions
Why did Spencer Matthews skip Jamie Laing’s stag do?
Spencer Matthews, who has been sober since January 2018 after overcoming substance abuse, declined the invitation because he didn’t want to drink — not because he didn’t want to attend. He assumed his sobriety was understood and feared his absence would be misinterpreted as personal rejection, but he never explained his reasoning to Laing, leading to hurt feelings on both sides.
Why wasn’t Spencer Matthews invited to Jamie Laing’s 2025 Comic Relief ultramarathon?
Jamie Laing didn’t invite Matthews because their friendship had grown distant by early 2025, following the 2023 wedding fallout. Laing admitted he didn’t reach out because "we weren’t friendly," while Matthews confirmed he never received an invitation. The absence was misread by the media as hostility, when it was really just silence.
How much money did Jamie Laing raise for Comic Relief in 2025?
Jamie Laing raised exactly £2,053,835 during his 150-mile "Red Run" ultramarathon across England in March 2025. The event concluded at Trafalgar Square in London on March 15, 2025, with several Made in Chelsea alumni present, though Spencer Matthews was notably absent due to the ongoing rift.
What role did the media play in escalating their feud?
British tabloids like The Sun, Daily Mail, and Metro ran headlines throughout 2023–2025 claiming the pair were no longer friends, turning their quiet estrangement into a public drama. Both men confirmed these articles deeply upset them, as they never intended to make their personal conflict public — and the narrative made reconciliation feel impossible.
Are Jamie Laing and Spencer Matthews back to how they were on Made in Chelsea?
They’re not back to 2011 — but they’re trying. Both admit they’ve changed. Matthews is more self-aware, Laing is learning to communicate. They’ve started texting regularly and say they’re committed to rebuilding trust slowly, without pressure or cameras. The friendship isn’t restored — it’s being rebuilt, one honest message at a time.
What’s next for their careers after this reconciliation?
Jamie Laing continues to lead Candy Kittens Limited, his London-based confectionery brand, while Spencer Matthews balances his family’s construction business with reality TV appearances. Neither plans to reunite on Made in Chelsea yet — but they’ve hinted they might collaborate on a future charity project, this time with full transparency and no secrets.
